It's been exactly 6 months since I wrote a blog post, yet so much has happened. I've shared little bits and pieces of my summer & fall in Twitter, but really, it's been a crazy time & not everything can be explained in 140 characters. Following is a summary of some of the important milestones, events, thoughts I've had since April.
I also had a ultrasound of my fingers done back in May. It was an interesting experience & gave my doctor & I a clear understanding where we stand with rheumatoid arthritis. All finger joints were inflamed (duh, I knew that even without the sonogram) & loaded with synovial fluid. Deformations were so minimal, it's barely worth mentioning. It does not mean I'm not (or have been) in excruciating pain though. What it means is that the synovial fluid was hard at work trying to destroy the cartilage that keeps my joints functioning & eventually that would lead into deformities.
I also saw a dermatologist for my odd skin problems & had a biopsy done. It gave me the answers, but no cure for this one either - the diagnosis is Lichen Planus. Some doctors believe it's an autoimmune disease as well & nobody really knows what causes it. Some speculate it could be brought on by extreme stress. I've also read it's not hereditary, but I beg to differ. After my diagnosis we also had a diagnosis for my dads skin condition. It was always a taboo, we were not allowed to talk about, nor did he ever get a biopsy on it. He was probably too scared to know what it was. He suffered from the skin disease since his teen years up until he passed away at age 56. Also, he never wore short sleeves nor shorts, because of his scars. What a way to (not) live.
Thankfully I was able to begin Enbrel injections (50mg/week/sure click) in the beginning of June, I felt a significant improvement in joint pain & swelling in just 2 weeks & it's been mostly good since then. I do have wrist pain, ankle pain & my previously injured left knee continues to be badly swollen. But in comparison to where I've been, how bad things were, I was ready to give up on life... the quality of my life is amazing. I can only hope this lasts, but because I know it won't - I'm appreciating every single day I'm able to run the stairs, tie my own shoes, open milk cartons, wash a frying pan & wipe my behind ( lol, yes, most people take this for granted!).
We also finalized our separation agreement. July 16. It was a compromise for both. It was also a huge relief. However, following the signing of the separation agreement I had to get myself & little one ready for our trip to Finland. There was no time, nor was it practical, to move/find a place to live, before our trip. I was mentally preparing to move in September, after we got back from Finland. However, finding an apartment has proved to be incredibly difficult. According to our agreement, I should've moved out by October 1. That day has come and gone & we're still here. We are all living in a limbo, though, we're both trying to keep little ones life as normal as possible. Due to not knowing when we can move, ex & I haven't been able to tell our son about the separation. It's absolutely killing me, it's like everyday we don't tell, we're lying to him.
|My little pumpkin with his pumpkin :)|
I recently realized I've buried some painful events so deep, for so long, that I almost forgot them. Something happened recently & it reminded me of the insane mental anguish I was in. It was so painful my mind had completely blocked it. Now it turns out, I never dealt with the loss & I need to face the music. I don't know how or where, but it won't let me be... just keeps bringing me down & making me sad. I recently confided in a friend about these things & it made it all far more real than I can deal with currently. But I suppose it's part of healing & grieving process.
~ Thanks for reading my long update ~
Onwards & hopefully upwards.